Saturday, May 12, 2012

A Bittersweet Mother's Day

     It is Mother's Day, a day when we honor our mothers for all they have done for us. It is also May 13th. On May 13th, two years ago, my mom died. On May 13th, 46 years ago, her mother, my grandmother, died. So, May 13th is an strange day for me. At the beginning of the year as I put things on my calendar, I noticed that this anniversary date was falling on Mother's Day this year and I had a moment...but, now that it is here, it really doesn't matter much to me. I know for some people, holidays and anniversary dates are really hard and I expected that to be the case for me after I lost my mom. What I have realized, is that I miss her so much every day, that these anniversary dates and holidays can't make me miss her more than I already do. So, I choose not to spend the day feeling sad. I choose to count my blessings for the fact that I had a wonderful mother and that I am lucky enough to be a mother. Happy Mother's Day Mom, I wish you were here!

20 comments:

Barbara F. said...

Your mom was a lovely lady. And you choose to do the best thing, I think! I feel the same way. Have a good Mother's Day, Sue. xo

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

Oh what a precious and loving post. I so agree, I miss my mom every day, so one day isn't more than the other. My mom has been gone for many years, but I think of her and remember so much about her everyday. Happy Mothers Day to you. Hug,s Marty

Ricki Jill Treleaven said...

Mother's Day is bittersweet for you! I hope you have a special day with your family.

Glenda/MidSouth said...

Have a great day tomorrow - Happy Mother's Day !!

Kim @ Touch of Nostalgia said...

Your Mom was beautiful. I lost my Mom two years ago today. I miss her every day also. I hope you have a nice Mother's Day tomorrow.

~Kim

Flo @ Butterfly Quilting said...

Happy Mothers day to you!

AshTreeCottage said...

I wish that I was with you to give you a real hug and not just a virtual one. Looking at your mom's sweet face I can see all the love there can be in one person. I believe that she is in a wondrous place and one day you will be together again.

Big Hugs,
Susan and Bentley

FABBY'S LIVING said...

A loving and heart felt post in honor of your sweet mother. I can't even imagine losing my dear mama, but the inevitable will come to all of us one day and we will be missed by our childre, and the chain goes on and so does life! Have a very blessed MOTHER'S DAY.
FABBY

Nellie's Cozy place said...

Happy Mother's Day to you Sue.
Wow, that is something that your Mom and Grandmother passed away on May 13th.........but I am so proud of you and think you are sooo wise to choose to make it a day of celebration, cause that will really honor your Mom more. You really are blessed to have a Mom you miss so much, and how true when you miss her everyday how could you miss her more.......
Hope you have a wonderful day seeing or hearing from your children hon.
Tomorrow May 13th,is our Scott and Megans first Anniversary.
They were here to see me for Mom's day today and tomorrow they are celebrating their big day!
They actually married on Friday the 13th.......

Bless you sweetie for your great attitude, your Mom looks like a very sweet and loving lady, and I am sure she is smiling at your wonderful choice and attitude.

Love and Hugs, Nellie

Country Wings in Phoenix said...

Oh Sue Sweetie...
What a beautiful share this evening. Your Momma was so beautiful, and she lives on in your heart. What she shared with you growing up, has made you the beautiful Mother that you are today. I am so thrilled that you allow me to call you friend. I love you sweet girl.

Happy Mother's Day. Many hugs and so much love, Sherry

Maya @ Completely Coastal said...

Wow, May 13th. That is very interesting! My mom past on 3 years ago in May, but with me living in the US and my family in Switzerland, we didn't see or hear much of each other. Great that you choose to celebrate the blessings!!

Entertaining Women said...

We were so blessed to have such wonderful mothers. 100% relationships deserve 100% good byes. It is a blessing to come to the point where we can celebrate Mother's Day again. I think that you're right. Our mom's would want it that way. So...Happy Mother's Day! Cherry Kay

bj said...

Hi, Suz....
We all share in missing our mamas.
Have a blessed day with your family.
xoxoxo bj

Lemon Lane Cottage said...

What a wonderful post. So true and such a nice tribute to your mom. Have a wonderful day.

dee dee said...

Happy Mother's Day Sue. I know that you have missed your mom so much in the past two years... but what a sweet honor to choose and remember her in such a loving tribute today! Like you wished me may it be a day of peace and love!
dee dee
You look so much like your beautiful mom!

Maria said...

Hi Sue ~ Happy Mother's Day!
Your date of May 13 has quite a lot of significance for you and your family. Here it is now, Mother's Day and it layers on top of the sadness of loss ~ the beauty of motherhood ~ the remembrance of these special women in such a gentle way ... adding a mother's sweetness ~ as only a mother can ♥
Today, we count our blessings ~ our own beautiful mothers and grandmothers who taught us with such care and our children ~ who added many facets to our lives beyond the way any diamond could!
Happy Mother's Day, Sue!
Thank you so much for your lovely visit today *
~ Maria

Gypsy Heart said...

I didn't remember the exact date your mom passed away. Wow, what an incredible date you've had in your life! I do better than I did the first couple of years...now I try to think of things that make me laugh. My daughter and I shared some of my mother's "sayings", etc. today and almost rolled with laughter. That helps a lot.

I'm glad you're getting out today.
xo
Pat

Cindy (Applestone Cottage) said...

Oh goodness Sue, that is a lot to bear!
I am so happy to hear you have good memories of your Mom.
I know today must be hard regardless of the holiday.
Take Care and you reminded me to not take my own Mom for granted.
Big Hugs,
Cindy

raisingahappyfamily-momof8 said...

I miss my mom too...
you are blessed with great memories..

Jenny said...

Two years already Miss Sue?

Oh my.

Your Mom was beautiful...inside and out...

I think her spirit lives on through you.

Sending you a giant Arizona hug.