Sunday, April 18, 2010

Update

     Just a few lines tonight to update you on my mom. She is still in the hospital and hanging on. They will keep her there a few more days and then we will have to move her to a nursing home/rehab center. It won't be the same one that she hated so much. It is a very nice place, but she wouldn't want to be there. She sleeps most of the time, but has been responsive since the massive stroke on Saturday morning. She has opened her eyes a few times, she can give a thumbs up and down, a smile, a pat on the cheek if we are lucky. She isn't in pain and doesn't seem to be afraid. My dad on the other hand is really struggling. We've had to make some very tough decisions, most resting on his shoulders. The four oldest grandchildren (2 mine, 2 my sister's) have been down to see her and she knew they were there. My daughter was the lucky one, she came before Saturday's stroke.
     My mom isn't going to recover. It is simply a matter of days or possibly weeks until she leaves us. I came home today. I had been down there a month and while leaving was the most difficult thing I've ever done, it was to the point that I was simply watching my dad watch my mom. I needed to be home with my husband, my dad needed some time alone with mom and to accept what has happened. It has been the worst month of my life, but also it has been the best. I don't have words for how sad I am, but I am at peace and I feel like the luckiest person alive to have had this time with both my mom and my dad. I am really trying to focus on just how lucky I am. 
     I want to tell you all about the woman my mother is, and I will in a day or two. Tonight I'm simply too tired to do her justice. Thank you so much for all the prayers and kind thoughts. I really could feel them.

23 comments:

Cindy (Applestone Cottage) said...

I am so sorry Sue. Your month really has been a tough one. Your a brave soul and a comfort to your Dad I am sure. I am sure your hubby will be happy to have you back home.
Take Care,
Cindy

kim said...

Sue, my heart goes out to you. I know you are going through a difficult time and I will continue to pray for your family.

Glenda/MidSouth said...

I am so sorry. ((((hugs))))
Try to get some rest and take care of yourself also.

Natasha said...

Sue, please know that I think of you and your family often and I will indeed keep every single one of you in my thoughts and prayers.

Sending you a big cyber hug,
Natasha.

Julie@beingRUBY said...

Dear Sue
I've been thinking about you and your mum often these last few weeks and I wish I could make it all better. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.. Please take care of yourself also.... xxx Julie

Maria said...

Dear Sue,
It is such a very heartfelt time for you... I do understand...
You are indeed fortunate to have time with your mom before she is welcomed on the other side.
My mother passed away suddenly from a heart attack {I was only 24}.
The shock was unspeakable... but she left us an amazing family for support.
We were able to visit my mother-in-law just before her passing. It was as if Heaven and Earth met in her room... and it became Holy Ground.
The time that we were allowed to be together, I will always treasure ... I know that you have given your mother and yourself the gift of precious, precious moments.

It makes us so much more attuned to all of our moments with those we love ~ they are each a gift.

God's comforting hand will is always before us... and will eventually guide us all to the full glory of His Kingdom.
♥ Maria

Maya said...

I truly believe that we live on in Spirit..., or have always been "alive", and I try to stay focused on that.

All the best, and much strength!!

Jude@ThisJewels4You said...

Sue, you and your family will continue to be in my prayers during this difficult time in your life. Jude

dee dee said...

Sue,
I sending you cyber hugs and heart felt prayers and thoughts. I'm thankful that you had this month with your mom and dad.
Dee Dee

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

My heart and my prayers are with you. I am so sorry for this really rough time. What a blessing to be there for your mom and your dad. These are the hardest days. I will continue to pray for you and your family. Hugs, Marty

FrugalMom said...

Sue, I am so sorry that you, your mother and your family has to go through this. It is heartbreaking to see someone we love slowly slip away from us, and nothing can really make it easier.

I am thinking of you Sue, and I am sending you strength and possible thoughts.

Rettabug said...

Awww, Sue...I wish I could just stop over & give you a {{HUG}} & make you a cuppa tea & let you cry it all out. What a sad, sad time for your whole family. You are all in my prayers tonight.

Sue said...

My heart goes out to you all. Take care of yourself too.

Pat said...

I so wish I were closer ~ I'd bring you something to eat, a soft quilt to wrap up in and a squishy pillow to rest your weary head. My heart goes out to you as I've been there too. I am grateful that you've had this special time with your parents ~ it is a true blessing that you were there for them as well as for yourself. If there is anything at all that I can do for you distantly, I'm here! The prayers will continue ~ for each of you. My wish is peace for all as well as acceptance and healing for your hearts.

xoxo
Pat

Yvonne @ StoneGable said...

My heart is so sad your you, Sue. I can hear the weariness in your words. I am so very very sorry. Know that I am praying for you and your family. May God comfort you and be your strength, dear friend.
Yvonne

Herself said...

So sorry to hear about your mom, Sue. I pray God will be very near to you all and comfort you with His peace that passes understanding.

Kathleen said...

I am sorry, Sue..I know how difficult this is..I am praying for all of you!

Angie said...

I'm so sorry, Sue. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Michelle @ Sweet Something said...

Thinking of you Sue. Praying.
God bless you and your family.

Karen said...

Sue, from someone who has been in your shoes . . . pray and just keep that peaceful feeling. You know your Mom wouldn't want it any other way. Much love and hugs. Karen

The Quintessential Magpie said...

Sue, I'm just getting back online and reading this! I'm so very sorry about your mother, and if there is anything at all I can do, please don't hesitate to call on me. I took a break today from the workmen, and this is the first blogging I've done in what seems like eons. I miss all of you.

My heart goes out to you, and I mean it when I say please let me know if I can help somehow. I can check on your dad for you if you need me to do so. I'm in St. Augustine and will be happy to drive to where they are if you need me.

Sending you warm hugs...

XO,

Sheila

Shugee said...

Sue, my most sincere, with all my heart, prayers for you and your family. I have been there and when I read what you wrote my eyes filled with tears. You just know you have a lot more people than you know praying for you and even though it's a very difficult time for you, you carry her love with you.

My heart pours out to you at this time...
hugs,
Kim

Amanda C. from the middle of nowhere said...

You know I'm praying for your family. And I do know how hard things are going to be. Just try to treasure the memories. It is hard to let go, but you'll be able to when the time is right. You've obviously learned so much from your mom, and now you're sharing that with the world. She must be an incredible lady. And I can think of no greater tribute. I love you, Sue.